We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it – and stop there; lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove-lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove-lid again – and that is well; but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore.
Finish this sentence: I can’t stand talking to him/her because s/he always:
- Hears a challenge and sees a contest in every situation
- Is easily distracted and gets off topic
- Won’t make a decision alone
- Becomes insulted and defensive over the slightest disagreement
Before I understood how DISC helps me understand where other people are coming from, I would become frustrated, even angry, when I was confronted by someone in their style as they reacted to a statement I made or situation I was involved in.
I think it’s human nature to expect people to treat us in our style. Problems arise when we are in our style and they are in theirs, and their style is not the same as ours. Many times I’ve said:
- I’ll never do that again!
- I’ll never talk to them again!
- That’s the last time I’ll have anything to do with them (or that company)!
Now that I know how to discern other people’s style and how their style influences their response, I have learned the key to communicating with people. As a result, I am a better communicator. When I am really good at it, the person thinks I am the same as them, when in truth, I may be a polar opposite!
You, too, can learn this highly valuable process to become more successful and less stressed in your business, your relationships, and your life. Start today with a DISC like the KITE DISCtest247.com because you need to know your style first. When you and I review your results in the debrief, I’ll help you understand how to put your discerning tools into action.